The word 'Friend' and how I learnt it!!

If I don’t talk about ‘Friend’, its unfair to my blogging :-)

This word is not a separate entity for me, but is a part of me.
The magic the word did, the wonders it brought to me, the impact it has on me, everything is a never ending experience.

A little few years earlier, one of my friends during our then hand written letter conversations asked me – “Have you ever tried to stop and take a look of the time? Everything is so strange. U know how much I wish to unwind the time back!! Is it possible?
And a few months earlier I have tried to make it possible and shared with him.
And it made me to write this blog.

To begin with-how good were our childhood friendships?
The innocent worship towards the friendship and a friend was one of the more valuable things in life!!
Everything that a friend did looked great, we did not have any bounds to do anything for a friend because we did not have a logical thinking over there, just the faith in friendship.
The world then was filled with----
The sharing without which we never were happy to have something…
The sacrifice which was done just to see our friend happy, nothing else…
The smiles that were never fake….
The excitements that were same as ours….
The dreams that had no limits…..
The prayers that were unselfish…
The achievements that were not touched by jealousy…
The secrets that were kept unfolded till life time….
The heartfelt tears that were shed on our friend’s sadness…
The strong wish to meet the friend again on the next day….
…its an endless count!!
The friendships then did not need any explanation for anything we did, either hurt our friend or gave happiness.


If we are buddies still with those childhood fellows, we are lucky, we still have the same innocence.
I am double lucky….2 of my childhood friends are my best buddies till date :-)

A common quote that ever heard ‘People drift into each other’s life, friends are the ones who stay’.
Yes, friends are the ones who stay with you though they are not present.

My once best friend (as I thought in my 6th standard :-)) Madhavi, taught me how to dominate others when you know you are correct…..

My best buddy Uma (we share not only the same name, but many other things co-incidentally) taught me the “dare to do” nature and how to freak out even when you have strict boundaries around you…
My another precious friend Vamsi, who every time showed me a new angle of how a friend should be!!
Till date I am learning from him, the recent meeting with him 2 days back again taught a new lesson.
If I talk about him and his role in my life, the impact he has on me,I can talk days together…years together.
He patiently tolerated my irritations, my silly mistakes, my un matured thoughts, my stupid adventures, my innocent excitements, dangerous experiments ….he is still doing it.
He is my friend, guide, teacher, role model and what not?
He taught me – the hard work, the competition, the fun of learning, the bitter truths of life….and the list goes on!!

Then Prabha, with whom I just keep talking, talking and talking about life, philosophy, mindsets, ethics, morals,people…..
She taught me to have conviction towards anything we do, how to be stubborn, and yeah how to be conservative (ofcourse, I recently realized her ‘conservative’ thinking has crossed boundariesJ).
And if I keep saying….the list goes on….!!
Some friends taught me how I should be; some taught me how I should not be J
Everybody left their impacts, either, small or big, in my life, I am carrying them till now!!
Yes, Friends are the ones who stay!!
They are staying with me every day, every hour, every minute.

Now, after a long pause towards making friends and friendships….just started learning a new definition of friendship,a different taste of friendship with my little buddies Irfan, Prachi ,Rashmi….!!
They are very much younger to me….we have extremely different mindsets, attitudes,life styles, opinions…but the friendship is same:-)

I am learning from them too…this time from kids :-)
I am unwinding the time back!!

"Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art... It has no survival value; rather is one of those things that give value to survival."